11 Couples Talk About Being Married to Their High School Sweetheart
Why falling in love with someone you know as a teenager can be the best thing in the world.
“It’s literally a story of love at first sight.”
Candace, 27, and David, 28, met in 2004 in Montville, New Jersey. They were married in 2012 and now live in Roseland, New Jersey.
“I was walking by, and I happened to notice David in passing at lunch one day. It’s literally a story of love at first sight. David reached out on AIM and said he looked me up in the yearbook. We later met at a mutual friend’s house, and went on our first date, which was coffee and bowling. We both went on to different college and stayed together — lots of driving up on the weekends to see each other.
I feel like there’s a lot of stigma around high school sweethearts. I was 23 and David was 25 [when we got married], and a lot of people questioned that we were as young as we were, but having grown up together and going through regular teenage stuff and prom together, it was like we grew up and matured together. I feel that our bond is much stronger than the average person’s relationship, just in the sense that we were kids when we met.” —Candace
“When you’re in your 20s, you think, ’I have my whole life ahead of me,’ but when you get to this age, you’re like, ’I don’t want to waste any time.’”
Jennifer, 47, and Steve, 48, met in 1984 at in Miami, Florida. They were married in 2014 and now live in Raleigh, North Carolina.
“We met at the mall, like all kids in the `80s. Everyone assumed that we were going to get married because we were really close and my parents loved him, but that’s a lot of pressure out of high school to get married. The summer after high school, by August, we had broken up.
We found each other on Facebook in 2010 but were both involved with other people. It got very intense very quickly when we were both single at the same time. We connected as potential partners in 2013, and then we got married in 2014. When you’re in your 20s, you think, I have my whole life ahead of me, but when you get to this age, you’re like, I don’t want to waste any time. If this is something that’s going to materialize, you want to take advantage of it. He said he’d thought of me throughout the years, he said, ’I always thought back to you and thought, Wow, that was the love of my life and I let her go.’ By the time we met again in our mid-40s, we knew exactly who we were, who we wanted. When people say, ’Oh my gosh, you were high school sweethearts, what’s your secret,’ I say, ’The secret is being apart for 30 years.’” —Jennifer
“He was wearing a lime green Hollister polo, and was extremely tan and handsome.”
Brittany, 28, and Eric, 28, met in Morgan City, Louisiana. They are now married, living in the city where they met.
“My husband and I met after Hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans. My family had to evacuate to Morgan City, Louisiana, to live with my grandmother. The second night in the city, some of the girls from my new high school were gracious enough to take me to dinner with them. As we were walking in to the restaurant, he was walking out with some of his friends. Even though it’s been over 10 years, I can still remember every detail of that moment. He was wearing a lime green Hollister polo, and was extremely tan and handsome. He stopped to talk to us and introduced himself to me. Funny how neither one of us knew we were shaking the hand of our future spouse.
In December 2005, I was singing in a musical raising money for Katrina victims. He came to watch and support me. After the play, he offered to take me out to eat for a job well done … the first of many dates. He had a single rose waiting for me on the seat of my car.
I feel like marrying your high school sweetheart has this stigma around it. I think being able to go through some of life’s greatest milestones together not only makes your relationship stronger, but more meaningful. We can say that we actually grew up together. Because we did. I hope when we are together for 50 years, both old, wrinkly, and decrepit, we can look into each other’s eyes and see not an old man or woman, but ourselves at 18 — fresh-faced, hopeful, and blissfully ignorant.” —Brittany
“We used to page the numbers ’100101,’ the date that we first kissed, to each other constantly.”
Sarah, 31, and Dave, 29, met near Rochester, New Hampshire. Now they live together in Chicago.
“My husband Dave and I met because he was my younger sister’s first boyfriend and first kiss. Their relationship quickly ended, but I continued to chat with Dave occasionally because we were in the same church youth group together. In 2001, when Dave was 14 and I was 16, our youth group took an overnight trip to a religious conference. During the long drive in the church van, Dave and I started chatting, then flirting, then making out later that night.
Ever since that day, which I remember the date of because we used to page the numbers ’100101’ to each other constantly, we have been together. Two years later, we got married, honeymooned in Mexico so he could drink legally. We just celebrated our ninth wedding anniversary!” —Sarah
“Meeting him was this magical thing where you look at someone, and know that person is special and someone you have to know.”
Julie, 46, and Steven, 47, met in 1984 in Colonia, New Jersey. They got married in 2014, after almost 20 years without contact, and now live together in Los Angeles.
“We met in 1984 at a dance. It was this magical thing where you look at someone, and know that person is special and someone you have to know. We dated all through high school and kind of dated in college. We always had plans that we’d get back together after college. But by 1996, we lost touch completely and went off and had completely different lives.
There was nobody else who was my best friend and who I was also madly in love with like I was with Steven.
Years later, when we found each other again, we were across the country from New Jersey where we’d grown up, and we were both married. I eventually separated from my now ex-husband and spent about a year just trying to cobble my life together. Then I got on Facebook, messaged Steven, and that was it. I think we spent that whole first night messaging. When we got married in 2012, I had the pink taffeta dress I wore to our prom together in 1987 and had it redone and made it into my wedding dress.
We always wonder, Should we have stayed together? I’m so in love with my husband that it makes me so sad to think about what I missed out on in his life. But then we think, We needed to do this. There was a reason why we broke up — we had such a tumultuous relationship back then. For us, it was necessary to grow up and date other people. But there was nobody else who was my best friend and who I was also madly in love with like I was with Steven. Steven really is the best friend I’ve ever had. There’s nothing that compares to this. I get the person I grew up with and the person that knows me best — I have an appreciation for him because I didn’t have him for all that time.” —Julie
“We talked on the phone for three hours and spent the next week together.”
Hanna, 30, and Stephen, 30, met in 2002 in New Buffalo, Michigan. They’re now married and live together in Chicago.
“I had been going to boarding school in Connecticut, and something transpired that made me come back home from boarding school and go to a local school at home. That’s where I met Stephen, this little cutie pie from New Buffalo. He was like the sweetest guy ever!
He hadn’t really dated anybody else that I knew of, which is probably good because New Buffalo was a super-small town — I think we graduated with, like, 40 people. We dated our senior year and then we tried to date a little bit throughout college but sort of went our separate ways. Years later, I was planning on moving to California and I told him, and he said he’d love to see me before I went. We talked on the phone for three hours and spent the next week together. I still went to California because my U-Haul was already packed. We dated for six months long-distance, and then I moved back to Chicago, where he was living, and we got engaged a year later.
Marrying a high school sweetheart is great, I think, because it’s like knowing who they really are. That’s the biggest thing.” —Hanna
“Michelle always ran in this big pack of girls, so it took me about two weeks to figure out who she actually was.”
Michelle, 49, and Dave, 50, met in 1982 near Rochester, New York. They were married in 1992 and live together in same town where they met in the ’80s.
“When I was in 11th grade, Michelle’s older sister sent me a note when we were in the library that said she knew somebody who liked me. I sent a note back asking who it was, and she said it was her younger sister, Michelle. Michelle always ran in this big pack of girls, so it took me about two weeks to figure out who she actually was. We were at a basketball game one Friday night when I finally met her, and we hit it off. I remember sitting in my parents’ bedroom working up the courage to call her — I think I sat there for about an hour working up the courage to ask her to go to the movies. We went to the movies together and have pretty much been together ever since.
I remember sitting in my parents’ bedroom working up the courage to call her.
I always knew I really, really liked being with her. We had fun together, and our value structure was very much the same. But somebody asked me once if I could see myself sitting on a porch with her when I’m 75 and would we still have something to talk about. Without even batting an eye, I said, ’Yeah, absolutely,’ and he said, ’Then she’s the one for you.’
What’s really awesome about our relationship is just all the history we share. I remember one time, a few years after we had gotten married, Michelle looked at me and said, ’You know, you’re not the same man I married.’ Alarms started going off in my head, and I said, ’What do you mean?’ And she said, ’When we got married, I thought that you loved me, but I didn’t really knowthat you loved me. Today, I know that you love me because you take the time to find out what’s important to me, and you make it important to you too.’ She taught me a great lesson that day. You just learn so much about somebody from being together that long.” —Dave
“We really have our own language, nothing is off-limits, everything is out there.”
Jessica, 27, and Ben, 27, started dating in 2006 in Burlington, Vermont. They were married in 2014 and live together in San Diego.
“We met through an ex-boyfriend of mine — I was dating this guy Ben went to school with, and a group of us went bowling once and we started hanging out. My friend told him via AIM that if he asked me out, I would definitely say yes. So we went to a movie and to the mall to walk around, and he asked me out in the mall parking lot.
It’s fun being married to someone I knew in high school because a lot of our friends and most people in our wedding were people we’ve known since high school. It’s fun to be able to look back and laugh. He just really gets me — he’s seen me through almost every single kind of thing you can go through in life. He’s seen me at my highest high and lowest low. We have really funny memories of drinking together for the first time off the back roads of Vermont. We really have our own language, nothing is off-limits, everything is out there. It definitely makes us a stronger couple.” —Jessica
“He said to his friends, ’She’s either going to be my best friend or I’m going to marry her.’”
Hannah, 24, and Travis, 25, started dating in 2008 in Rowlett, Texas. They were married in 2010 and live together in the same town.
“We met in high school theater — I was the assistant director for a play, and Travis was in the play. We started hanging out a lot, and he said to his friends, ’She’s either going to be my best friend or I’m going to marry her.’ I absolutely felt the same way. It was the kind of thing where you just knew.
He knows literally everything about me. He knew me when I was a kid and he saw me develop into a woman. You think you’re a woman in high school, but you’re not, you’re just a kid. He saw me changing and becoming the person I am today.” —Hannah
“I turned him down, because my mother said you should never accept a date that’s only a day away.”
Kim, 50, and David, 51, met in 1982 in Burnsville, Minnesota. They were married in 1987 and live together in Lakeville, Minnesota.
“We met at church, we went to the same church but different high schools. David just showed up in my driveway one day, which was exciting and unsettling. My family had a pool table in the basement and we played a game of pool, and he said, ’If I win, you have to go out with me. I said OK and let him win, and he invited me to go out with him the very next day. I turned him down, because my mother said you should never accept a date that’s only a day away, and said I could go out Saturday night instead. We went out Saturday night for dinner and a movie — I had a turkey sandwich and he was wearing a burgundy V-neck sweater and Lee jeans.
Prom was our fourth date, and I remember he brought flowers for my mother because she had made my dress. Back then, your dresses went down to your wrists and up to your neck. We continued to date through my junior and senior year of high school while he was at college, and he came back both years for my junior and senior proms.
We got married my senior year of college. I think I realized I’d marry him even in high school — I was young and romantic, and thought he was perfect in every way. Marrying him is the single greatest thing that’s ever happened to me. My life would not have been the same without my marriage.” —Kim
“Since we have known each other for so long, being best friends is all we really know how to be anymore.”
Kayleigh, 22, and David, 22, met when they were 4 years old in Kingwood, Texas. They were married in 2014 and live together in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.
“We grew up in the same church and met in Sunday school when we were 4. We were really good friends our whole lives but dated other people through most of high school. We went to prom in the same group but with different dates. We started dating shortly after that.
Marrying someone I knew growing up absolutely set us up for success in our marriage. We’ve found that, for us, marriage isn’t about constant cuddles and romantic gestures until you die, although we love that part of it. What’s shown to be really important is figuring out how to be the best partner and friend that the other person needs. Being there at the end of a bad day and listening to the other vent, running to get cold medicine when the other is sick, speaking life into each other’s insecurities and failures. Since we have known each other for so long, being best friends is all we really know how to be anymore. That makes all the other stuff way easier.” —David
The top 10 women celebrity crushes we all have
Look, we all know we are more interested in looking at female celebrities than male ones (except you Ryan, calm down). Here are the top lady crushes most women have:
10. Emma Stone
Emma Stone burst onto our radars as the quirky, offbeat comedy star with a difference. Yes, there’s no denying that she’s beautiful but she’s also a little different, funny and not your typical Hollywood starlet. They say you can’t have it all…
9. Olivia Wilde
Not just a pretty face, Olivia took the stage name Wilde after the one and only Oscar, a testament to her brains too, perhaps? No, mainly because her real name is Olivia Cockburn. No, it is. Not only does she act, she also models, writes, acts and directs. Oh and she just did a shoot with Glamour where she showed just how beautiful is is to be a breastfeeding mum. Swoon.
8. Miranda Kerr
Miranda started out as a Victoria’s Secret model (no surprise there really) and rose through the ranks to become one of the most famous Supermodels of recent times. As if that wasn’t quite enough, she’s also a fashion icon and has the worlds cutest baby with Orlando Bloom. Life envy much?
7. Christina Hendricks
Christina, or as most of us will know her, Joan, the steely star of Mad Men, is as famous for her acting skills as she is for her curves and she never looks as good as when poured into another of those fabulous vintage costumes. Not bitter at all…
6. Mila Kunis
Mila is another classic case of being the girl that every man wants and every woman wants to be. Not just content with being hot, smart, funny and oh yes, engaged to Ashton Kutcher, she’s also a serious film actress when the time calls for it. *Sigh*
5. Jennifer Lawrence
Who doesn’t love Jennifer Lawrence? She proved herself as a worthy actress from the get go and her popularity has been on an upward spike ever since. The fact that she appears to be so grounded, normal and funny only helps to increase our admiration (and love) for her.
4. Alessandra Ambrosio
Brazilian born Alessandra is a Victoria’s Secret model (no surprise there) and there isn’t really much else to say here, so just look at the image below and feel the awe rise up around you. If you aren’t blessed with her genes, you can always use party casino research to understand how you can win elsewhere – right?
Pretty much every sane girl in the world would agree that Rihanna is one of the hottest females ever. She appears to have it all. The looks, talent, money, men (well…), lifestyle, friends. So thank you Rihanna, we officially want to be you right about now.
2. Blake Lively
Blake, the tall, beautiful Gossip Girl star has since moved on from teen dramas and married the equally beautiful Ryan Reynolds. With legs up to her armpits, the most lusted after hair in the business and a wardrobe full of clothes that merely highlight how goddamn hot she is, Blake, we applaud and really want to be you.
Come on, you had to have known that Beyoncé would be our number one. It’s Beyoncé for gods sake. A stellar career, the most amazing figure on the planet, riches and an ability to rock a leotard like nobody else, there isn’t much to do apart from just look on in wonder.
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In defence of Cassie from Euphoria
I am a Cassie Howard apologist. Yes, even after last night’s episode of Euphoria. I sympathise with her, even if I don’t condone her choices, or even enjoy watching them most of the time. The problem with being a Cassie stan – as is the case with any of the characters in the Euphoria universe – is that every week the show tests that stance, pushing our problematic faves to new depths of debauchery and dubious morality. Cassie’s character in particular has practically become a meme in itself, with TikTok asking itself, week-on-week, how she can possibly fall any lower in our estimations. Of course, she does it anyway.
Some have speculated online that Cassie is a character foil for Rue, both of them addicts, with the show telling the story of their desperate needs. For Rue, the object of her addiction is opiates, for Cassie, it’s love. Rue’s backstory illustrated to the audience how her life up until now – her family trauma, a healthcare system that over-medicates its children – had primed her for addiction to drugs. In the same way, Cassie’s – growing up with an alcoholic mother and absent addict dad, being se**alised at a young age by older men – primed her for a dependency on male validation. But it’s undoubtedly harder to root for Cassie in spite of her flaws the way we rally for our flawed protagonist Rue to finally get her shit together.
Maybe that’s because Cassie embodies so many of the things we hate, or at least the things we ridicule; the things we collectively recognise are objectively incredibly annoying. Her problems pale in seriousness compared to the others – she’s not self-harming or addicted to opiates or dealing drugs or framing innocent people for crimes they didn’t commit – and so her struggles seem so cheesy, so silly. Cassie’s main dilemma is that she’s sleeping with her best friend’s ex-boyfriend. And she makes such a big deal about it. She falls into a depression spiral and treats her friends badly and dr*inks too much. She throws herself at a man who clearly doesn’t want her. She gets messy and throws up at a birthday party. When she’s exposed by Rue, she deflects the blame with pani*cked vindictiveness. Cassie is completely wrapped up in herself and her struggles, to the point where she doesn’t seem cognisant of the power and privileges she still possesses.
It’s easy to dislike her, I would ar*gue, in moments like this, because it’s relatively easy to see ourselves (or at least our teenage selves) in her messiness. While the problems faced by characters like Cal Jacobs or Ashtray might be so far away from our own lives that we can safely say we’d do it all better and never let ourselves get in those dangerous situations, Cassie’s cheugy, messy emotionality and teenage angst are uncomfortably close. It’s no surprise then, that Cassie has become an emblem of equally painful-to-follow toxic female characters, like Fleabag or the unnamed, but similarly self-indulgent protagonist of Ottessa Moshfegh’s book My Year of Rest and Relaxation. Cassie is in her Fleabag era, but unfortunately for her, there is no Hot Priest-shaped respite for viewers, only Nate Jacobs. And while we do get moments of being able to say “finally, go girl give us something”, like when Cassie walked out of an argument with Nate after saying she was crazier than Maddie, the show almost always instantly subverts them with having Cassie crawl back for more abuse. Annoying to watch? Perhaps. Realistic? From a lonely 17-year-old, sadly yes!
Even when she’s dealing with more serious problems, Euphoria is never far from reminding us of Cassie’s ridiculousness. When she asks Lexi whether she looks different, shortly after finding out she’s pregnant with McKay, Lexi becomes a stand-in for the audience, lashing out at her sister and pointing out how absurd she sounds. For the audience, the dramatic irony is even more potent: we know that while Cassie is experiencing her own personal trauma, she was also totally unequipped to deal with McKay’s (who had just experienced a violent hazing at the hands of his fraternity brothers, and was coming to the crushing realisation that he would never be a professional athlete), which many viewers interpreted as an unwillingness to engage with it too.
Euphoria’s total disregard of character development for McKay – he appeared in the first episode of season two, and has been missing in action ever since – compared to its almost lecherous lingering over Cassie’s every move, has been singled out as one of the show’s many problematic recent decisions. And while online rumours have speculated over whether that was down to actor Algee Smith’s views on vaccinations, the fact remains that Euphoria’s choice to ignore McKay’s struggles in favour of Cassie’s make her OTT breakdowns even more painful to watch. That much is fair: but the fact audience complaints are directed at the fictional character herself, not the polarising showrunner behind those decisions (Sam Levinson), a little more unfair imo!
One constant criticism of Levinson’s writing and of Euphoria as a show, even amongst its hardcore fans, is how over the top and ridiculous it is. How its storylines would never happen in real life (at least not all at once, to one friendship group, in the middle of the school year), and how none of the characters would pass dress code, and how it doesn’t make sense that there are no uggos, only hotties. It’s true that much of the show’s audience has never picked up a suitcase of narcotics and carted it around town on a bicycle, or secretly recorded all of the times we’ve cheated on our suburban wife, or dropped out of school to care for our ex-dr*ug baron grandmother. But you might have drunk too much at a party and thrown up. You probably debased and embarrassed yourself trying too hard for someone who didn’t want you, or ug*ly cried down the phone to people who think you’re being, honestly, a bit self-indulgent and annoying. Every week, Cassie acts out the kind of things you remember at two in the morning and cringe so hard at that it’s impossible to sleep. But it’s hard to admit you were more embarrassing than you currently are, and mortifying to watch someone else do the same, and so we’re like: No, Cassie fu**ing su*ks.
And she does, of course, but I would argue no more so (and in some cases, a lot less so) than any other character in season two of Euphoria. In last night’s episode [spoilers here!] Cassie tries to get out of being exposed for sleeping with Nate by calling Rue a drug addict, after Rue loses her temper with Cassie’s naive attempt to reassure her she can take rehab “one day at a time”. Was that advice cringey? Yes! Is Cassie’s response cruel? Yes! Is it worse than Rue calling Leslie a bad mom? Or Laurie injecting a dopesick 17-year-old with morphine? In the case of the former, I would say sleeping with your best pal’s ex is dubiously worse. But the latter? I mean, probably not! Judging by the episode’s response today on Twitter and Reddit though, that sliding scale of perspective is not a popular excuse for Cassie’s increasingly dumb behaviour. But, I digress!
Cassie know good and well she could’ve played that off better like baby you gotta learn how to LIE
— HOOD VOGUE is tired of poverty (@keyon) February 7, 2022
So yes, I am a Cassie apologist. But, I must caveat, no more so than I am an apologist for any of the other flawed, broken, ug*ly characters in the relentless, unforgiving universe that Sam Levinson created for them to live in. That’s the beauty of Euphoria. For all the criticism the series has received (some of it deserved, some of it TikTok hysteria) its success lies in its ability to make the audience empathise, even for a second, with a man like Cal Jacobs, who created a life of amorality and toxic masculinity to compensate for internalised homophobia. Or with a character like Jules, so lonely and hurt that she’ll cheat on the emotionally unavailable Rue with Elliott. Or Rue, so desperately addicted to drugs that she’ll attack her mother, sister and best friends. You might recoil at their choices but on some level you understand what drove them to those choices too.
It’s entirely possible, of course, that I will regret this appeal for moderation when it comes to burning Cassie Howard at the stake for crimes against humanity and friendship and fashion. There are still another four episodes of season two of Euphoria left, and with things looking bleaker than ever for the universe’s characters, who knows how much further she can sink. Sam Levinson has created a world with only two certainties: one, that we will complain every week without fail about his characterisation and then tune in to watch anyway. And two, that Nate Jacobs fu**ing su*ks.
Watch: Katherine Heigl flashes knickers as she strips off in middle of busy New York street
The 36-year-old comedy starlet can clearly laugh at herself, and her facial expressions were a picture when she got caught stripping off in the Big Apple yesterday.
Katherine was spotted shamelessly undressing and redressing herself, transforming from her neon pink and black cycling outfit to a more work-ready white pencil skirt and turtleneck top.
But the American beauty gave onlookers an eyeful when she unwittingly flashed her knickers during her rapid wardrobe swap.
While most would be left red-faced, Katherine had an excuse for her peculiar behaviour because she was filming scenes for her new CBS show called Doubt.
The mother-of-two was joined by her co-star Dulé Hill, 40, who played the perfect gentleman by clutching on to her handbag while she was otherwise occupied.
The crew are currently filming a reboot of the pilot episode, with Katherine being cast as successful defence lawyer Sadie Ellis alongside Orange Is The New Black star Laverne Cox who will play a trans Ivy League-educated attorney.
Meanwhile, Katherine’s husband Josh Kelley recently spoke out to defend her after she was branded “difficult” for blasting her own 2007 film Knocked Up.
I mean, it’s very interesting because somehow a bunch of haters just created a whole thing that she’s ‘difficult’,” he said. “That girl’s never been late, never missed a mark, she’s the least ‘difficult’ person in the world.
“I’ve been to every movie set since we were together, and everybody loves her. “So it’s really interesting how people can make s**t up and then it can get a heartbeat.”